Saturday morning. 7:30 a.m. Bright sunlight streams through the windows and illuminates the toys strewn on our floor, and gives a golden hue to our battered, comfortable, mostly second-hand furniture. I am up because, despite a relatively sleepless night, my body simply will not remain asleep beyond 6:00 a.m. anymore. (I used to think Dad was crazy for getting up early on the weekends... I'm starting to realize he did not have a say in the matter.) I make cafe au lait for myself, and a much weaker version in a sippy cup for my son. My wife remains asleep, nested firmly in the spot that I recently vacated.
We sit in silence and sip our respective beverages. His sober little morning face is an incredible reflection of his mother's.
"Something is missing," I tell him.
He continues drinking from his sippy, his huge brown eyes studying my face.
"Something important."
His silence continues. Like myself as a child, Jack's consumption of coffee is an all-or-nothing ritual, where he does not rest until the cup is drained to the last drop.
"Donuts, Jack. We need to get some donuts for Mommy. And flowers. Why flowers? Not because it is a special occasion... it's just that when you live with a woman, periodically giving her flowers buys breathing room for those times when you royally screw up. Free tip, kid."
"Donuts!"
"Indeed."
I stand up to get him out of his pajamas, and then I stop. It hits me like a freight train.
It is probably 1987. New Orleans. The weather is that same muggy warmth, with the same sunlight that seems to turn everything to gold. My father and I are on the road. We're in his immaculate Nissan Maxima, with its square lines and uniformly gray everything. We're on our way to Morning Call, which is the other restaurant in town that sells beignets, French donuts with powdered sugar on top. Dad and I are both wearing our pajamas and flip-flops.
This is very strange, because my father is a very proper man. Always with immaculately combed hair, clean shaven, pressed shirts and pants. Always appropriate. Composed. Controlled. Even in his own home, I could never say that the man relaxed. I only got to see little cracks of my father's humanity on rare occasions.
This was one of them. Riding in that old car, sitting in his ragged pajamas, my father wasn't quite my father. Or, at least, not as I knew him. His hair was unruly and his chin was covered with dark stubble. Chuck Berry warbled "You Never Can Tell" on the radio, and we bellowed along. (I tried, at least. My knowledge of Berry's songs was limited at that time.) Dad dropped the hammer and we tore down the road, likely considerably faster than the speed limit. Both of us laughed in delight.
It was one of the few times I ever remember him doing so. This is one of my favorite memories of my father, because I got a little glimpse of who he was as a kid, before the world went to work on him. Rakish, impulsive, and a bit irresponsible, there was a certain delight in him that day. I'm not sure exactly why the walls came down, but I'm glad they did.
I smile at my son and leave his pajamas on. I neither shower nor shave. My hair looks like I've mixed it up with an electric socket and a battered "Tron" tee-shirt adorns my chest.
"C'mon, kiddo. We're keeping up a tradition."
"Donuts?"
"Yes. Still the donuts. And flowers for Mommy. And whatever the hell else we feel like."
I load him in the car. Through the magic of smart phones and little cables, Chuck favors us with another rendition of his classic. I roll down the windows and tear down the causeway, with the ocean wind roaring in my face. We sing along to the radio and shamelessly procure our treasure from the store. For a bit, the rest of my life with all its cares and worries fades into non-existence. I am 100% present, and I am delighted. Jack smiles his mother's beautiful smile.
When we get back home, he surprises Mommy with our treasures.
Hopefully, one day, something will remind him of this, and he'll smile at this glimpse of me, just as I did of my own father.
This moment that you just spent w/Jack is so precious - and since you are a different person than your Dad, I'm sure there will be lots more spontaneous moments like this that you will both so love and enjoy and that will provide fond memories as the years go by. I love you all!!!
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing that wonderful moment. It was so powerfully told I could feel it. Write on.
ReplyDeletep.s. you can order beignet mix from the Cafe Du Monde (www.cafedumonde.com/beignet) I forego rolling it out and just drop it in the hot oil, letting it fry as golden tasty spheres from heaven.